“Whether your pregnancy was meticulously planned, medically coaxed, or happened by surprise, one thing is certain – your life will never be the same.” – Catherine Jone
Key Concepts:
● For your baby: There is a huge range, but your baby is likely 5-6 lbs and 18-19 inches. Less room in your uterus may mean fewer kicks but more discomfort.
● For you: More discomfort including heartburn, Braxton Hicks contractions, and early signs of labor like the loss of your mucus plug.
● For your partner: Time for a final checklist of who to notify about delivery and anticipated needs for the first few weeks. This includes organizing for partner leave if that is part of the plan.
● The first few weeks with your baby may feel like a blur. Your baby’s schedule will largely revolve around feeding, sleeping, and diaper changes…on repeat.
● Newborns do not yet have a developed circadian rhythm (which is the internal clock that regulates sleep-wake cycles). This means they don’t know the difference between day and night, so it’s your job to start to differentiate.
● Having a baby is like no other experience in your life - not only emotionally, but hormonally. As you (and your partner) adjust to this change, it is ENTIRELY normal to have changes in mood. This includes baby blues, postpartum depression and postpartum anxiety. Knowing the signs and symptoms may help to prepare, and many treatment options exist.
What to Do:
● Take some time to think about who will be in the labor room with you and visiting after delivery. The number you’re allowed can vary amongst hospital or birthing centers, so check with your provider about what is offered. Think of people who support you emotionally and physically, or someone with birthing expertise like a doula. Have open and honest conversations with your potential support team people about your expectations and needs.
● Set specific visiting hours that work for you and your baby’s schedule. Limit the number of guests at any one time and keep visits short. You can also clearly state that you’d prefer not to have kids visit in the first few weeks. This is also a good way to keep those preschool and daycare germs away from the baby.
● Don’t be afraid to implement some health and safety practices that work for your family. Ask guests to wash their hands before holding the baby and to avoid visiting if they’re feeling sick. Depending on the time of year, your comfort level, and illnesses going around, you might ask visitors to wear a mask.
● Learn to accept help from your visitors. This can be hard BUT now is the time to take advantage of their offers. Ask them to bring meals, run an errand, hold the baby while you shower, or assist with a few things around the house.