Empower your child with safety knowledge by talking about consent, trusted adults, and boundaries. Create open dialogue to ensure they feel safe and understood.
“There is no greater warrior than a mother protecting her child.” - N.K. Jemisin
Key Concepts:
- Talking to your kids about safety issues (like consent) helps them not to think of these subjects as taboo. This increases the likelihood that they will talk about these issues with you in the future, and opens the door for more discussion.
- The safety conversation doesn’t have to happen all at once! It happens over time and through many, many discussions. It’s okay to have this conversation in parts and to even do it without an agenda.
- By identifying who the trusted adults are for your child, you’re helping them know who is safe and helpful.
- Sudden changes in a child’s behavior around adults are important to pay attention to. Does your child stop wanting to spend time with someone or refuse to visit a certain adult? Listen and pay attention to these feelings.
What to Try:
- Practice modeling consent with your child, by asking simple questions such as “Can I have a goodnight hug?” instead of assuming they want a hug. Encourage family and friends to model this too.
- Reconsider the use of the word “secrets” (“Let’s make your sister a picture! It can be a surprise for her!”), as research shows that children can be compelled to keep secrets, even when they know that there is something dangerous or wrong about the secret. Educate your child on safety using specific language such as distinguishing good touch vs. bad touch and naming “bathing suit parts.”
- Role play scenarios by acting out possible safety concerns, like a stranger asking for help or a lost puppy. This can help make scary topics playful (instead of a formal sit-down lecture).
- Help your toddler memorize their details, including their full name, your full name, address, and cell phone number. Turn it into a song or clapping game that’s easy to revisit and practice.