Finding Meaning As A Caregiver During The Pandemic

COVID-19 has brought tragic losses to millions of American families. It has also put many out of work. Loneliness and distress have increased.

What have people learned through this national crisis? Some people have discovered how tough they are. They have faced and met new challenges. Others have learned the people and activities that are most important to them. Many have learned to like working from home on video, not sitting in traffic. Family caregivers, too, have found blessings to count. They help them cope even during this difficult time.

Here are some ideas for finding the blessings during this pandemic: ­

Finding joy at home:

Because they are at home more, many caregivers have found new ways to enjoy old activities, such as reading, writing letters, and doing puzzles. Some may have started house projects. Others have tried new recipes or watching bird through their windows. These small pleasures have made them happier.

Finding joy in others:

Many caregivers miss seeing family members, friends, and neighbors in person. They realize their importance to them. They can't wait to hug them one day. Chances are they won't ever take those relationships for granted.

Feeling grateful and hopeful:

There have been many news reports about COVID-19 deaths, lost jobs, and food lines. This has made many caregivers grateful for the good things they have, such as a warm home, a steady income, and regular meals. They also know now that complaining about the pandemic doesn't help them. Instead, they have learned to look forward with hope toward better days. Perhaps, soon, families can be together for Easter or go to baseball games where only the catchers wear masks.

Using technology:

Many caregivers have become Zoom and FaceTime experts. They know all about Facebook and Instagram and Twitter. They love getting emails and texts. These technologies aren't strange to them anymore. They have learned they are helpful tools for communicating with others.

Helping doctors:

During the pandemic, telehealth has become popular. Caregivers have learned to set up the computers so that doctors can see and talk with their loved ones. They share information and help answer questions. This has become a key part of keeping their relatives safe.

Being a proud caregiver:

It has been hard for caregivers to be constantly at home with their relatives. But many have found new joy in caring for them, especially without others' help. They understand better that their loved ones need them to stay healthy and safe. They understand, too, that they need to take care of themselves. Caregiving is a big and difficult responsibility at times. But it makes them proud to make a difference during this long health crisis.

Barry J. Jacobs, Psy.D. is a clinical psychologist, family therapist and a Principal for Health Management Associates. He is the author of two self-books on family caregiving and a monthly column on family caregiving for AARP.org