Caregiving: Your Loved One's Doctor Appointments

An average doctor's appointment is just 15 minutes. There is a lot to accomplish in that time. That time is valuable, so in order to make the most of it, one must be prepared.

Understandably, going to the doctor can be nerve-racking and overwhelming for older adults, especially those who are dealing with complicated health conditions or are facing serious health decisions. It is best if the caregiver can accompany the older adult on the doctor appointments, but if that's not possible, the caregiver can help prepare for the visit.

The caregiver and the older adult should review the list of medications he or she is taking. Make sure it is updated and complete. The list should contain the strength and dosage of each medicine along with the drug name. Ask your loved one if they are also taking any over the counter medicines – aspirin, ibuprofen, – and any vitamins and herbal remedies too. They may have side effects or shouldn't be mixed with other medicines.

If your loved one has diabetes, bring along the log with records of daily blood-sugar measurement.

With your loved one, discuss his or her condition over the past few months since the last doctor appointment. Have there been any changes in weight, appetite, sleep, or energy level? Has your loved one felt lonely or sad or started to have problems with memory? Are there any new symptoms your loved one may be experiencing? The doctor will probably ask when any symptom was first noticed, how often it occurs, and how long it lasts. Try to be ready with the answers.

Every bit of information is important for the physician in order to get to the bottom of your loved one's condition. Make a list of your concerns. A doctor may have time to review three to four concerns with the patient. If there are more concerns to discuss, let the receptionist know when scheduling the appointment that you'll need more than 15 minutes.

If you are able to accompany your loved one on the doctor visit, be sure to let him or her be in charge. Talk to your loved one ahead of time in order to define your role at the appointment. The caregiver is typically there to take notes, ask questions, and give support. Does your loved one want you to step outside during the physical examination? Can sensitive personal information be openly discussed? How proactive should you be?

During the appointment, let your doctor know right away that you have a list of a few questions. Don't wait until the last minute as the doctor is walking out the door.

If you – the caregiver – can't go on the appointment, find out if the doctor will give permission for you loved one to record the conversation to share with you and the care team. Also ask the doctor to provide a release form for the older adult to sign that would give the doctor permission to speak with you directly about your loved one's condition.

Resource: National Institute on Aging